As a survivor in the months and years that followed my life seemed to spiral out of control. A big part of that was the bad decisions that I had made. After the friends turned their back and left a big mistake was made; that mistake was to fall in love with a predatory woman who only used me to get away from her husband. It cost me my college education and the future that was mapped out. Other mistakes were made later on, mostly because my judgement was impaired by the aftermath of the assault. However, you will be spared the details, for trauma often leads to bad decision making and there are many other examples.
Recently there was a story about a teenage sex trafficking survivor caught having sex in her high school’s restroom. This is not uncommon for survivors of various forms of sexual abuse. While it may seem counter-intuitive that they do things like this it becomes a coping mechanism. Sex becomes a mechanism to survive, but not at the appropriate time or place. For sex trafficking survivors the trauma often leads to bad decision making.
Soldiers coming back from war are often not in a good place, they bring back the horrors with them and it haunts them. War trauma often leads to bad decision making among other things. We don’t teach people to cope well with trauma they way we should. Thankfully soldiers do have a place to reach out to so they can get help.
Learn to cope with trauma before making your life decisions, it will make life better. Even if it seems like it is taking forever and you are impatient it is better to wait before you make important life decisions as trauma often leads to bad decision making. Seek help, find a counselor please, don’t let the trauma ruin your life permanently.