Often times we have friends who are angry and they lash out at people who they don’t agree with on an almost constant basis. Sometimes they are just nasty a little but, are completely unapologetic about it. They think that they are right and often don’t care about who they hurt. If you get in a disagreement then you can expect them to be just as nasty to you. While in a previous post we discussed how not to let petty differences destroy friendships, we also need to know when you have to let a friend go due to their destructive nature.
We have all had someone in our lives like this or know some one who has. There are a few former friends who can be used as an example; like S.G. who used to say terrible things about the political party that this blogger is aligned with, this became her justification when I needed a friend the most. Similar politics don’t always make for good friends though; D.H. who runs a well known page on Facebook was a friend for a few years. Unfortunately we had what should have been a minor misunderstanding and I was wrong but, rather than make up he continued to attack me. So look out for people like that.
Cutting people out of your life may not be so easy to do if you have invested heavily in them emotionally. Sometimes it seems down right impossible and that is understandable, it’s why some people stay in abusive relationships for years. But this isn’t to say that staying around toxic people is like being in abusive relationship but, if you are walking on egg shells then it is a good sign to cut ties. Do fewer things with them, and even flake, hopefully they will get the hint.
But it is hard but staying around people like that for too long is even harder. Even if you don’t know anyone who is a toxic friend, share this with someone who may have them in their lives. You would be helping them to see that staying with the toxic people never turns out well. Take it from a blogger who has had to deal with his fair share of nasty people, you will be better off. Have a blessed day!